Experiencing Loneliness

This should not be confused with lonesomeness. Loneliness is a healthy part of a human being’s life. It is also the most frightening prospect because it means that you have to start paying attention to your heart. That can be a scary realization for lots of people. What one must avoid, if melancholy thoughts should begin, is feeling helpless. Helplessness leads to poor judgement and even though it sounds so common sense-y, people make the same mistakes over and over again.

Are You Lonesome Tonight?
What is the Difference between Loneliness and Lonesomeness? Good question. Here’s my take on it:

  • Loneliness allows you the ability to hear your innermost thoughts. Lonesomeness corners you and sets you on a downward spiral away from productivity and from your self.
  • Loneliness is the feeling you get when a sudden, unexpected change is brought upon you. It often requires an extended period to adjust. Lonesomeness is a feeling that falls under the assumption that you need someone or something else to satiate your pain in order to help you live.
  • Loneliness can still be felt (among the living) in public places. Lonesomeness separates you from everyone you love.

People can get over being lonely. Like the Muppets sang: “A table for one, can be fun!”. Yet, too many people fall victim to the trappings that loneliness can bestow. It makes way for Lonesomeness and Desperation. Those two love to stop by for dinner and feast on your heart for awhile. But we won’t let ’em, will we?? Of course not.

Many of life’s lessons are learned when one becomes an adult and has to essentially ‘take on the world’ alone. One might even venture to say that one of the earliest displays of solitude is thrust upon us at childbirth. But with each experience: your first car, your first apartment, your first move tere is one major thing that you are learning: Strength. You’ll survive the despair and you may even come out with some new insight on your blessed boundaries.

So go ahead and live, breathe, die…alone and in charge. You against the Forces of Nature. You vs The World.

I mean, that’s cool. Isn’t it?


About Lisa Perez

Lisa M. Perez is a published poet, editor, copywriter, public speaker and artist. The co-creator of the first ever ArtSpace in Jersey City, member of IUOMA (International Union of Mail Artists), and administrator for an online Mail Art group, Lisa supports the arts and advocates for creativity. Her successful, Art Journal and "Notes from my Brain" series are ongoing projects that evolve with the artist. In addition to being an active blogger since 2005, Lisa scripts and edits copy for various online articles and videos. In September 2017, she was a guest-speaker and virtually chaired a YOGA Recovery meeting. In her spare time, Lisa studies, reads, and creates while maintaining a day job in a STEM field and being a full-time fur-mommy to her shih-tzu, Cher.
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One Response to Experiencing Loneliness

  1. Missy Wayne says:

    Mema,I’m so proud to see,every time I read something in your blog,”words come from you that echoes back to me things I taught you.The school ,of life,is so present within us!The two words “are” real different. Missy

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