The Doorway: A Metaphor

This drawing is all about CHOICES.  The eternal conundrum: to stay in the dismal room or to go through the doorway which looks creepy and foreboding; the stuff that you know vs the stuff that you don’t.  So I started to think what is it about doorways and choices that inspire potential in even the most cautious person?  I don’t know about you, but I like living life as though there is always something unexpectedly around the bend.  Everyday brings with it a new surprise, a renewed sense of wonder and intrigue that most people overlook because it’s all taken for granted.  I mean, we breathe air.  We stand up.  We talk (some more than others).  We have professions.  We survive.  But what is it that makes one’s life story a page-turner?  Let’s take a closer look, shall we?

Choose Your Own Adventure:

I’ll admit that I loved these goofy novels that were paper-thin during my school days.  I enjoyed going through the pages and after making a random choice, being able to go back and make new choices which effected the result.  Sometimes, in the really good ones, you died right away.  Other times, you’d just go through the story and end up a millionaire, and although this outcome is highly unlikely in real life, it made for endless hours of entertainment.  Personality accounted for some of the changes I made.  My thought process was another.  But each and every time, I was fully engaged in the storyline enough to feel as though it really mattered what choice I made.  So why is it people don’t consider their own lives an adventure?  Most of us would say that our lives were predictable, ordinary, and even boring.  You hardly ever hear someone say, “Oh, my life is an ADVENTURE!”  And if you did, you might categorize that person as a schizo or a weirdo.  Why can’t people get jazzed about life?  Maybe it’s because they feel that their lot in life has limited their choices.  Maybe it’s also because some feel that their choices are so varied that it is almost impossible to always make ‘the right choice’.  Maybe people feel that they haven’t been empowered enough to make their own choices: that choices were made for them.  Whatever the reason, we know that choices can be overwhelming, difficult, and murky.  It’s often hard to find sure footing when the end result is unclear.  But, hey.  We live in America, people!  At least we have choices to make and to decline.  That’s gotta account for something.

I Require Your Full Participation, Please:

Making a wise choice takes a few key things: pondering possible outcomes, taking into account others’ experiences which didn’t work in the past, and recognizing those that did.  Careful research could define what works best for you, but you have to be open enough to see what’s right in front of you: pretty or not.  Some people skirt the obvious because they do not want to be judged and end up making careless mistakes.  The best choice (even if it’s not the most popular choice) is one that works for you.  It doesn’t mean that you will always win accolades.  It doesn’t always mean that people will praise you the world over.  That’s what risk is for.  You have to be in it to win it, right?  So it takes a bit of determination on your part to be able to defend the choices you make.    Here’s the trick:  YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE. 

This Game Is For Adults Only:

You know who makes the worst choices?  Teenagers and children.  Their limited life-experience and inability to listen to their older (and wiser) brethren go against the point I’m trying to make.  If the answer to all of your choices is: “I dunno” or, “Because” odds are you aren’t ready to make definitive decisions to begin with.  Some choices can be life-altering and very hard to recover from.  If you think it’s a good idea to say, lend your friend your car or loan them a wad of cash with the certainty that they’ll pay it back, then you haven’t been watching enough People’s Court.  It’s also not cool if you leave your baby at the sitters.  That’s what Nanny 911 is for.  Still, there are some instances where some people ‘never grow up’ and make childish choices forever.  So I’m sorry, MJ.  You’re not Peter Pan and that isn’t “Jesus Juice”.

Aw, Ma!  You Used To Be Cool!

Just as choice is an eternal conundrum, so too are the idiots who make selfish choices.  Y’know, like the 40 year-old guy who still lives with his mom ’cause it saves on paying the bills’.  Or the chick who refuses to commit because she’d prefer having ‘friends with benefits’.  Remember though, that just by associating with these non-commitals, you are setting yourself up for disappointment, disaster and ruin.  Nine times out of ten, it’s best to leave these creeps alone.  Lest you insist on losing important brain-cells.  This choice for you should be a solid “No Way, Jose!”  Then, high-tail it outta there as soon as humanly possible to avoid getting sucked into their gravitational force-field.   

Make choices until you turn blue in the face.  But be wary of the choices you make.  They may be your own!  Aghhhhh!!!!!!!!!

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About Lisa Perez

Lisa M. Perez is a published poet, editor, copywriter, public speaker and artist. The co-creator of the first ever ArtSpace in Jersey City, member of IUOMA (International Union of Mail Artists), and administrator for an online Mail Art group, Lisa supports the arts and advocates for creativity. Her successful, Art Journal and "Notes from my Brain" series are ongoing projects that evolve with the artist. In addition to being an active blogger since 2005, Lisa scripts and edits copy for various online articles and videos. In September 2017, she was a guest-speaker and virtually chaired a YOGA Recovery meeting. In her spare time, Lisa studies, reads, and creates while maintaining a day job in a STEM field and being a full-time fur-mommy to her shih-tzu, Cher.
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